What they doesn’t need or seek is the approval of their parent’s, spouse, or siblings, or to be loved by their children. What they consider them to be are just audience members to watch their arrogance in the theatre which is their inflated grandiosity.
All they want is the focus to be on them, that they’re in charge and wants everyone to know.
What their ultimate wish is to shock them, impress them, threaten them, infuse them with awe, to inspire them to get their attention, or to manipulate them.
To make the stand they’re in control, what they say goes, for anyone who dares to confront them. They constantly demand this attention.
What they do is emulate and simulates a host of emotions, while employing every means to achieve these effects. They lie as they bows to their false god.
They can act pitiful, the exact opposite of what others beg of them to be. Once confronted, they default into several phases of disorder.
Seen As Threats
What they perceive their siblings or kids to be are threats to their narcissism, such as the attention placed on others instead of them. What they do is intrude on their turf while invading their pathological space.
They do their best to belittle others, mentally by emotionally hurting them, constantly humiliating them, all while enjoying the aftereffects.
If these reactions ever proves to be ineffective or counter productive, they’ll retreat back into their imaginary world of omnipotence. A period of detachment and emotional absence then ensues.
They then proceed to indulge themselves in self delusions of grandeur, planning for future interference.
This dysfunctional parent will react this way once their children are born, or a sibling dares in interfere with their delusional path.
Afraid Of Competition
Whoever they perceive to be in direct competition with him, they automatically considers them as the enemy.
What then ensues is aggression and hostility, aggravated by the real or perceived threat of the spotlight being lifted away from them.
Rather than attacking the issue, they’ll at times disconnect, detach themselves emotionally, becoming cold and uninterested, or will direct their anger to those closest to them.
Am I Good Enough
What this narcissistic parent does is seeks and secures the grateful admiration of their parents. They’ll take all the credit for their child’s achievements, while all failures are be directed on others.
As the children begin to grow older, they hope they idolize them, adore them, in the hopes to be in awe of them, to worship their deeds and capabilities.
This in the hopes they’ll blindly trust and obey them, surrender to their charisma while becoming submerged in their narcissistic persona.
Get Out Of My Way
Then what arises is the risk of mental abuse, attempting to influence their thinking.
What the narcissist parent does is derives gratification from having coital relationships with those who are physically and mentally inferior, the inexperienced and dependent.
The older the siblings or children become, the more critical they become to maintain control, often becoming judgmental.
This because they’re then able to put into context and perspective, the reasons for their actions, to question their intent, to anticipate their motivations better.
As the child matures, what they often refuse is to continue being their pawn. What they hold are grudges against them, to how they treated them in the past, when they were less capable of resistance.
Goes Full Circle
This brings the narcissist parent back full circle, as they once again perceives their siblings or their children as being threats.
They become disillusioned and devaluing, becomes emotionally remote, absent and cold, while rejecting any effort to communicate with them, citing the scarceness of time.
What they feel is burdened, wanting to escape from their obligations, to abandon their commitments to those who has become totally useless to them.
They don’t understand why they needs to support them, or suffer their company as they believe they’ve been deliberately or ruthlessly trapped.
What they then do is rebel by either being passive aggressive, which is evident by the scowl on their face, or by intentionally sabotaging their relationship.
They can become overly critical, aggressive, arrogant, unpleasant, psychologically and verbally abusive.
To justify their actions to himself and others, he gets immersed into conspiracy theories with clear paranoid hues.
Parental And Sibling Narcissism
A parent with a narcissistic personality disorder, will use the people closest to them as mere instruments for their gratification, to devalue them in their favor.
With the narcissist’s inability to abide and acknowledge the personal boundaries which are set by others, putting all in his path as victims of his destruction, they receive verbal and emotional lashing.
His possessiveness and panoply of negative emotions, transforms into aggression such as rage and envy. Then at times they will fight back, and what he receives is a punch in the face.
He Against The World
In his mind, he feels that everyone is conspiring against him, this because of his belittling, humiliating, or insubordinate ways. This narcissistic man ultimately gets what he wants, only to have those who he hurt disintegrate, this to his great sorrow.
The narcissist then feels besieged and becomes suffocated by his own wrath. He then rebels and erupts into a series of self-defeating and self-destructive behaviors, which leads to the decomposition of his life.
Then doomed to ruin, the narcissist becomes predictable in his own “death wish,” as this cycle comes back and haunts him.
What this sets up is a life of bad karma as he grows older, as all the knives are thrown back at him, and he will grow old alone, as no one will be there to comfort him.